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 If you can't do sexual act properly...

By Naeem Khan 

If you fail in bed while doing legal sexual act(sex between two adults with mutual consent), then don't blame yourself exclusively. You may not be impotent or weak or effeminate or transgender or asexual 

or eunuch or frigid and so on. It may be the other partner who's responsible for your failure. 

You may have special liking of a beautiful body and behavioral treatment.  You may have special triggering sensitive body parts which the other may touch or kiss or massage.  Explore your body where you feel more excites or energized. 

You may need balanced diet for your hormone or chemicals or energy or mood. You may need a suitable environment with comfort and no fears. There are so many factors involved. 

You may fail once or one day, but you may not fail next time. Don't feel depressed or sad. People even commit suicide for such failures. It's a mental and physical game which you may lose or win.

Men have peculiar problems as a physical Acton, the erection,  is involved but women may also feel frigid, dry and without orgasm, sex may be a torture for her. That's why sex with one's own wife or girlfriend can be rape if it's without her consent. 

Avoid viagra or any such artificial aphrodisiac medicine for arousal of sexual instinct which temporarily brings on desire, or increases sexual pleasure or performance.Pharmaceutical drugs are available and marketed specifically for their libido-boosting but these are usually dangerous.  Be natural. Consult a professional life coach or Sexologist. 

Don't take it seriously.  Sex is an instinct.  You must do it naturally.  If you can't do , it's not a big deal. Find out your natural sexual orientation as well. May be you're not straight by birth and it's not your fault. Have great partner with whom you feel easy. Don't force yourself. It may break you from inside.

Also avoid drugs or narcotics or alcohol to boost your libido artificially. Sex is natural and do it naturally and legally.

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